He tells me that I'm not a source of stress for him, that I'm comforting in fact, but that having a relationship is an extra thing he has to process.
I told him that I understand things better now that I've looked into his injury and gained some perspective.I told him to rest and that I'll be here waiting for him when he's ready to talk again. It's nice to talk to people who know about the subject.I know there's going to be some adjustments to learn ahead, but I really hope he lets me because I'm wanting to be with him for the long haul. :) Hi sweetie, he is so fortunate to have met you One yea4r means he is apretty new injury and has a long way to go yet.It is said 2 years heals the brain but things show up after years.I know that he's a proud person and would want to figure these things out on his own, but I want to be there for him.
One of his issues is that nobody was there for him when he got into his accident, that left him with very little motor skills for the first few months.With the information given, going forward, would it be best to abstain from any discussions of concern just so that it wouldn't set him off?Talking to my own friends about the situation, they feel that in a normal relationship, I shouldn't have to walk on eggshells.It's hard not to take it personally, but really it's not your fault! ) I learned that when I was feeling overwhelmed or upset, I needed to remove myself from the problem.And that's not to say I didn't love my family or friends anymore, just that something at that moment triggered a negative reaction in my mind that only I could solve myself.He doesn't even seem to be affected much by discussions about negative topics on an objective level (about other people, politics, etc.) Stress from school, negative energy from family, his friend with TBI and the thought that he has hurt me in the last little while puts him into overdrive.