Now I only have limited information, but in past situations like this women have told me it stems from fear that he might have feelings for her or that he’s not totally over her.Fear that she might do something to screw up your relationship with him.
Fear that she might take advantage of him (and you want to protect him from that.) While these are all legitimate fears, remember that they are your fears and therefore your responsibility in terms of handling them.The fact is that just about any high-quality guy out there is going to have ex-girlfriends. You may not mind some of his ex’s and other ex’s you may absolutely hate.My boyfriend is still in close contact with his most recent ex in a way which is troubling me.I know he has remained close to a few of his ex’s which doesn’t concern me at all (he has the right to be friends with anyone) but the most recent ex is still extremely needy.She sends him nasty texts saying he is forgetting his friends if he hasn’t seen her for a while, posts catty comments on his facebook page, yet he still won’t cut her off.
He says it is easier to remain friends with her than not to, but I personally won’t surround myself with people who are so toxic.The fact is: If a guy is profoundly obnoxious or terrible after a breakup, it is most often a testament to how rough the breakup was on him. MORE: 5 Things Every Girl Needs to Know About Guys Jerry Seinfeld once said that breaking up a relationship needs to be like taking off a Band-aid – One motion: OFF!In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain, etc. In fact, guys like to keep their emotional spectrum focused on a tight range of emotions – somewhere between amusement and contentedness.And there’s no “relationship law” that says you should like them.Generally speaking, though, when you have a relationship with someone, you consider it your relationship with that other person.Now, have you ever had someone you had a relationship with that other people didn’t approve of… People would say they didn’t like the person and they would give a reason. It was yours – they didn’t know the person in the way you knew them. and frankly, you didn’t want to explain it to them because really it’s none of their business (and they probably wouldn’t see your point of view anyway).