And the blurry, jerky, pausing unreality of video chat only makes you yearn for real-life interactions all the more.Video cameras and phones can’t always capture laughter, smirks or sighs of frustration.
So I couldn’t help but cry as I watched the movie while sitting next to my boyfriend who lives 2500 miles away from me.In an increasingly global job market, more relationships have to go the distance, but, friends assured me, it was easier than ever thanks to technology.Of course there are ways technology has made long distance relationships much more manageable.I can call my boyfriend every day without having to worry about massive phone bills.We watch movies and TV shows together, messaging each other “I told you so” when a plot twist is revealed or our favorite emoticons when the guy ends up with the right girl.
(We were watching episodes of Sports Night simultaneously long before the New York Times dubbed the practice sync-watching.) It’s unimaginable to me that my dad had to sit by a landline waiting for my mother to call him at a specified time when they were dating long distance.
If we reach a point, like in Her, where we can be connected to our partner at all times through an earpiece like the one Theodore Twombly wears or — more realistically — through messaging and social media, the benefits of being apart may be lost.
Yes, demands at our respective work places keep us from emailing all day; but it’s easy to imagine that won’t always be the case as socializing online becomes easier to hide and young workers become more proficient at multi-tasking.
If I want to see his face, we can use Skype or Google Hangout or Face Time.
If I want to know what articles he is reading, I can look at his Twitter.
He already knows the stories I’ve written that day because I’ve tweeted them.