A recent article in Cosmopolitan detailed “Why First-Date Dinners Suck,” listing similar reasons: The date category is antiquated, the time frame of the event is too long if there is no chemistry, and eating is too “intimate.” Dating online can be more miss than hit, even when you see the photo beforehand, so there is a risk that the dinner will feel even longer.“In theory, I like the dinner date, but nearly every time I’ve gone on one as a first date I feel like I’m trapped with somebody who got stale after the first 15 minutes,” said Christine Victoria Waller, a 35-year-old childhood educator who lives outside New York City.
Already some millennials see the value in old-fashioned dinner dates — like Elizabeth Whitney, a New York-based educator who describes herself as “heteroflexible” (that is, she considers herself heterosexual, but is open to dating members of the same sex).
“It’s not about the meal — more about the time investment,” she said.
“There is going to be a trend of getting out of this digital deluge and having real-life experiences,” said Brad Grossman, the founder of Zeitguide, where he advises business leaders on cultural and economic trends.
This offers an opportunity for new platforms to emerge that take online dating to the next level, he said, partnering with apps to provide dinner and date deals and ideas.
In large cities like New York and Los Angeles, a dinner tab for two at a midprice restaurant can be well over , not including wine and aperitifs.
Even for a casual dater going on one or two dinners a week or a month, the costs quickly add up.
It’s also usually harder on the man’s wallet, studies show.
Three-quarters of about 1,000 people asked in a 2014 survey by personal finance site Nerd Wallet favored men picking up the check after dinner, with only about 20 percent preferring to go Dutch and an anomalous 4 percent saying men shouldn’t pay the bill.
Even though dating apps are most popular among Millennials, according to a recent Seat Geek survey of 1,000 singles, 95 percent would rather meet people IRL versus online or on an app.
That's why for the second year in a row, Bustle is deeming April, "App-less April" and encouraging our staff and readers to delete their dating apps for 30 days and meet people the old-fashioned way: offline.
Only 7 in 10,000 messages in a recent Ok Cupid IAC survey suggested “grabbing some dinner” and a somewhat less scientific survey this reporter conducted of several dozen actively dating 20-somethings found that dinner has become a highly taboo first date.