Then I moved out but he kept texting and wanting to meet and it was almost as if we were back together until someone asked him about it and everything spirraled out of control again. I know he is going through a crisis and he is getting help to clean a few things up in his life but I guess I am just collateral damage. What do you do a day or a week after a break-up, when the wounds are still so fresh and the idea of a life without him terrifies you? It feels like all the good that I do, all the caring and supporting and all that is never enough to outweigh my flaws.
During all this time, I was there for him, comforting him taking him in when he felt bad, being the best version of myself and trying to show to him and remind him of what it was he loved about me but now he says he doesn't want any contact anymore. Even though I know, the way he is right now and the problems he has, I am better off without him but this knowledge doesn't help ease the pain. I realize we might never have worked well as a couple but it's as if someone has died. And I know that is typical self-pity and feeling bad about yourself because you've been dumped.
Make this "Cesdra's" time, to discover and learn more about who you are and your expectations and goals than you ever did in your life. Actually, he was pretty thoughtless of your feelings. Get something nice and indulge yourself--bubble bath, scented candles. Watch for them to start to grow and tell yourself they are similar to you because you are "beginning" a new life (without him) and you are looking forward to new possibilities as well.
I know all of that gets better with time it just seems like the saddest thing in the world to let go of this person. Start some from seed and call them your "new beginnings" plants.
As a person I really liked him, he was my best friend and he told me I was his and it seems like such a mean trick of the universe to pull us apart - for whatever reason. Actually, he was pretty thoughtless of your feelings. Get something nice and indulge yourself--bubble bath, scented candles. Watch for them to start to grow and tell yourself they are similar to you because you are "beginning" a new life (without him) and you are looking forward to new possibilities as well.
A source has spilled the tea on Harry Styles' recent break-up with food blogger Tess Ward.
It is said that their split was caused by the involvement of the latter's ex-boyfriend, whose name is being withheld."Tess realized she still had feelings for her ex after splitting from him to date Harry and has apologized to him for her romance with the singer," a source told The Sun, adding, "It will take a while for Tess to build back his trust but they have been getting on as normal.
Well....could pine over the man....crying your eyes out every day and stay depressed all the time, convincing yourself that your life is over without him. The least amount of time you can spend worrying and dwelling over him, the better for you. I would try to limit the amount of time you allow him to take up space in your mind from here on out. I think it is very important not to get involved with anyone for at least several months. You will feel grief, as you mentioned, then you will prob. Take this time to learn as much as you can about yourself. Either plant new ones in your yard and/or display on your patio and in your home.
While some crying is good for you as a release, it is better not to let yourself dwell in the "why's? Look up things online or get books about improving yourself--physically and mentally. Start some from seed and call them your "new beginnings" plants.
Realize that your self-worth is not measured through his eyes, but through your own. It doesn't matter if your friends are getting married and having children.
You are on your own timetable and what others are doing is irrelevant.
Or maybe a fitness goal (that keeps your body distracted) can be good things to plan a goal around.
I know it doesn't seem like it, but he did you a favor by imposing the no contact rule.
After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. the good news is tomorrow is a brand new day ,,,, and you can build tomorrows the way you want,,not what everyone else wants start with self improvement,,,,you need to feel good about yourself,,,join a gym,,or start jogging,,,running also read this 3 times look thru the windshield not the rearview mirror...life don't marinate is past b.s......can kill you,,,look ahead,,, picture your goals as you work towards them,,, you are not alone,,,you are free,,, enjoy your freedom,,, disassociate from him,,,,for a while,,, steer your own ship, don't wallow in the currents of others,,,, you only go around once,,,,make the best of it,, start tomorrow,,, when you wake in the morning,,,say aloud 5 things you are grateful for .life say them again at night Thank you for taking the time for such a long reply.