While scrolling through a discussion forum last year, Humaira Mubeen saw animated discussions on marriage between young Muslims, with an overwhelming number lamented the difficulty of meeting people.
The old-school approaches feel awkward, and typical dating services like Tinder or Ok Cupid have proven unpromising crapshoots for American Muslims (a fact first-generation Muslim Americans in order to breach "the chasm between Muslim American parents’ expectations and younger generations’ approach to marriage." So far, Ishqr boasts 4,000 registered users, half of whom log in weekly and spend an average of 10 minutes per visit.
One of the biggest sites, Muslima, has a reputation for being less than trustworthy, and isn't the preferred site of young people.
It's three minutes longer than Tinder's On Ishqr, about 200 accept a two-way connection each day, which is a lower rate than an app like Tinder — but for good reason.Ishqr, like Muslim American dating sites including Half Our Deen.com, are geared specifically for marriage-minded users. Not all young Muslim Americans have serious religious upbringings. Young Muslim Americans aren't exactly dominant in the mainstream dating conversation, and that's because "dating while Muslim" is its own unique, oft-misunderstood reality.' For me, meeting someone in person would have been ideal, but as that was not happening, why not use whatever resources I had at my disposal?
"Particularly when those resources are provide a unique opportunity.
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The messages young people get that "seemingly innocuous email exchanges or online dating could topple one off the Islamic path if one lack[s] vigilance." The takeaway for religious young people is that they should marry, but they shouldn't actually date to get there.
But for those who do, the experiences between the genders is often strained and stunted by well-meaning but traditional parents and communities.
It's easier to state your intentions outright, easier to filter through your options — and, most importantly, easier to connect.