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I remember the moment I decided I didn’t want to play poker for a living anymore, the moment that led me to where I am today: a teacher of at-risk kids.
I’ve also noticed that the stories I share often lead to specific questions.Like the comedian who anticipates the responses his jokes will get and crafts the perfect comeback to those responses, I’ve learned to anticipate and craft responses to the questions my stories elicit. That little nugget of my life always sparks a deep conversation.Of course, I’m not claiming that I can woo any woman. If someone just isn’t interested, there’s not much I can do there. No, to me, real rapport is when you’ve been with someone for a year-and-a-half, and you still look forward to talking to them every night, and you still find exciting things to talk about (and it’s only once every few weeks that you accidentally tell the same story again). And that’s why I believe that if you meet someone who charms your pants off – perhaps literally – on a first date, you should exercise caution.No, what I have learned is to take that spark of initial interest and stoke it — to find threads of commonality and use them to build a connection. If you spend an evening with a guy, and you feel as though you know him so well, that you’ve connected with him so deeply, that there’s just something about him you can’t resist… But, realize that he may be good at generating this “chemistry” with a lot of women.He pointed out that if you’re a comedian, you have to deal with hecklers all the time. Interestingly, I’ve discovered that dating follows the exact same principle…. If I manage to snag a first date, I get the chance for at least a second date.
After a while, you build up a repertoire of retorts for just about any occasion. I’ve mentioned before that if you’re on a first date, and the guy seems to know the perfect thing to say at every opportunity, that could just mean he’s been a lot of first dates. Long ago, I realized that I will never be the tall, dark, mysterious guy who just sulks in the corner and lets the girls flock to him – the guy who seduces with a glance and a smirk.What I don’t understand is, why don’t I get that “feeling” that I get just from looking at other girls whom I’ve never met before?How important is that “head-over-heels feeling” when you first start dating someone?That’s why you should probably wait at least a few dates before you start putting any weight on the “chemistry” you’re feeling for him.I am a relationships and comedy writer, which can be redundant or an oxymoron, depending on your perspective.Is It Selling Out to Marry Someone I’m Not Infatuated With? She has everything that I’m looking for, including my core values (born again, conservative, doesn’t drink, wants to strive for purity, etc.) And she is gorgeous!