"But not all choices, no matter how good our intentions, have the outcome we hope for or expect." Lianne's husband, Mark, a secular Jew, is an equal partner to his wife in many ways.He also wanted a Jewish household, but one that did not follow the strict rules of orthodoxy.
Perhaps Jewish men are less interested in marriage overall? But what is does report is that "American Jews overwhelmingly say they are proud to be Jewish and have a strong sense of belonging to the Jewish people." Ninety-four percent of American Jews, of all denominations, regardless of martial status, and equally among genders, believe this. our production of Jewish children, is lower than the national birthrate (2.2) at 1.9.But interestingly, among Jews married to Jews, the birth rate is 2.8, much higher than the national birth rate.And like me, as Lianne reached her late thirties, still single and childless, she began to reconsider her more observant lifestyle when she found fewer men who were not put off by her career as a successful internist and/or men she found at her level of sophistication and worldliness.She began to date non-observant Jewish men, dipping a toe in here and there, until, like me, she realized that secular Jewish men who wanted to marry Jewish women wanted to marry Jewish women who would eat in non-kosher restaurants and go out before the sunset on Saturday nights after the Sabbath ended.While I am no longer observant, I still identify strongly as Jewish.
I am traditional, and I plan to marry a Jewish man, regardless of whether or not I am still able to become a mother.Perhaps it's because Judaism is matrilineal; no matter whom we marry, our babies are Jewish by (Jewish law).Perhaps it's because Jews are much more likely than Americans overall to have a household income of 0,000 (25% vs 8%) and some Jewish men find a matching income level to theirs less appealing?But I have heard from my Jewish friends, both men and women, that as they near or pass age 40, they are less inclined to exclusively marry a Jew, even if they had always planned to.Sara, 41, is an entrepreneur who began dating non-Jewish men in her late thirties.And among Jews who marry non-Jews, the birth rate is lower at 1.8. " , lightly based on some of her posts here on Huffington Post Women, will be released in early 2014 by Seal Press and Penguin Canada.