D., co-author of Her take: “The first guy I dated when I moved to New York let me take care of him, which I thought would lead to a relationship.
I asked him to hang out one weekend, and he said he was busy but didn’t initiate another hangout.
I took the hint and drifted off, figuring he just wasn't ready to commit.
“The more there’s courtship and the guy is pursuing a woman he’s interested in, the more powerful the reward is of actually being with that person is.
If a guy gets everything up front, it’s quite possible his interest and that reward mechanism aren’t going to kick into gear,” Kerner explains.
I asked him for a picture, and he sent me a video clip of him as a police officer where two of his friends shocked him with a taser gun because they thought it was funny. ” -Amy W., 39Expert take: Men and women find different things attractive and look for different things in profiles.
“He probably thought the video was cool, that he looked like a tough guy, and that Amy would see it the same way,” Davis says.After two months, I invited him on a preplanned trip with friends, but he declined.After the trip, his text messages became shorter and the phone calls stopped.Her take: “I was dating this guy and everything seemed great, but we never established if we were serious, casual, or something in-between.I invited another guy to my friend’s birthday party who turned out to be mutual friends with the guy I was seeing.Her take: “While out with friends, I met a guy who lived 100 miles away.