Let me illustrate with a conversation heard on the Dr. ” Being Jewish isn’t a cultural affiliation or a tradition. That means a commitment to the responsibility given to us by Hashem at Sinai.
He does not strive towards a happiness, or comfort, which may be irrelevant to G-d’s idea of him.
His success is the idea of G-d, successfully carried through, and he is in love with his destiny…
It continues with Isaac’s command to his son Jacob not to marry the “daughters of the land.” The practice is mentioned in the Bible as a legal prohibition, and is also part of the covenant that Ezra the scribe had the Jews make when they rebuilt the Temple after the Babylonian Exile.
In all the above cases the underlying idea of the prohibition seems to be ideological.
We are trying our best to raise our children as Jews and give them a Jewish education. Otherwise, it’s entering a relay race, but choosing a partner who’s running towards a different finish line. It outweighs any synagogue or temple, even the Holy Temple built by King Solomon.
Now my son is almost thirteen, and he tells us he doesn’t want a bar mitzvah (celebration of the acceptance of one’s Judaism). Who you marry affects every single aspect of your life. By marrying a non-Jew one thereby ends over 3,000 years of Jewish continuity, effectively cutting oneself and one’s offspring off from what it means to be Jewish.Properly the Jew ought hardly to be heard of; but he is heard of, has always been heard of.He is as prominent on the planet as any other people, and his commercial importance is extravagantly out of proportion to the smallness of his bulk.Think of what has been sacrificed in the past by our own ancestors to keep their Judaism.And think of the heritage that is being sacrificed for the sake of personal reasons.The practice of not “intermarrying” is in fact one of the oldest features of Judaism.