This is not to say that incredibly beautiful women will only go for the model-handsome mind you – look at Christina Hendricks are the one making the first move, they may feel as though they will be in constant competition with other men: ones with better jobs, fatter wallets, movie-star smiles, and abs you could do laundry on.
Instead, make a point of being approachable and friendly.Wide smiles that reach your eyes (the “Duchenne Smile”) and open, welcoming body language can make a shy or introverted guy feel more welcome.This isn’t to say that there’s something wrong with being high-energy or being a tomboy, just that there can be a fine line between being energetic and outgoing and being obnoxious. He may mistake an interest in a discussion or debate for being scolded or even talked down to.He may worry that every conversation is going to be a lecture rather than a sharing of ideas.The more beautiful or desirable a woman, the more she can have her pick of men.
Olivia Munn may be a geek , but how is average Joe Nerd supposed to compete with the celebrities she meets on a daily basis?
A shy guy, even one who wishes women would be more assertive and take the initiative, can have a low threshold when it comes to directness and energy.
Similarly, if a man is interested in a woman who’s more in line with the idea of more traditionally feminine or lady-like behavior, he isn’t going to make for a good boyfriend for an outgoing, dominant or non-traditional lady.
There is no reason why you should try to force yourself to be someone you’re not in order to meet somebody else’s criteria.
Now, that having been said: you want to consider toning down your behavior somewhat. Some women, especially women with strong opinions and a willingness to express them, can seem angry or stand-offish to guys.
He may be overwhelmed by the force of her personality and worry that he will be forced to be the inferior partner in the relationship.