Harmful online dating

In the real world, a person is a package and you might not notice their eye colour, but online you cross off people for the most base physical reasons.

You become judgmental.’Professor Harry Reis, who led the research into the efficacy of internet dating, said that skimming over the profiles and pictures of hundreds of potential mates encouraged a ‘shopping’ mentality.

Men fibbed by 2 pounds, although they lied about their height, rounding up a half inch.

Another issue is that singletons who spend weeks or even months emailing a potential mate before meeting them often have unrealistic expectations.‘Also, he’s unlike any man I’d gone for before.

However, that does not mean there are no longer any risks involved.

While she had plenty of male friends, nothing developed romantically, so she signed up to a dating site. But they got back together, probably when he first disappeared, and later he wanted a bit on the side.‘Some are upfront, but many are not honest.

There are men who say they’re looking for a serious relationship, but when you chat online it becomes clear they don’t or they’ve already got a partner.

They’ll write anything women want to hear on their profile.’ She admits she found internet dating addictive.‘It’s exciting when you get an email in the morning that says you’ve had 20 views. Unfortunately, you then look at who’s shown interest and your heart sinks.

But it still encourages you to think that if you keep going, there’s got to be someone better next time.’‘The websites ask for your preferences on height, weight, hair colour and even eye colour.

The in-depth studies found that about 81 percent of people misrepresent their height, weight or age in their profiles.

On average, the women described themselves as 8.5 pounds thinner in their profiles than they really were.

‘I’ve met some lovely men, but I’ve also met many who lied about themselves and their intentions.’Her experiences are mirrored by many women, who find that internet dating is great if you want a casual fling, but not for anything longer lasting because there are so many dishonest men seeking cheap thrills.

Today, nine million Britons will log on to look for love.

With an unlimited number of other people on offer via the internet, there’s little incentive to work it out if things get tough.