Recent studies show that working moms are raising happy, productive kids who have turned out to be intelligent, secure, loving, confident and are making a positive contribution to the growth of the society.
The Prophet tells us that Allah says: “The Most High said, ‘I am as My servant thinks (expects) I am. If he mentions Me to himself, I mention him to Myself; and if he mentions Me in an assembly, I mention him in an assembly greater than it.If he draws near to Me a hand’s length, I draw near to him an arm’s length.As a mother you know that your purpose is to earn the pleasure of Allah and this applies to every aspect of our lives.The key here is to strive for His pleasure with ihsan (excellence) and motherhood is no exception.Here are a few things we can start doing to raise excellent children without feeling the mommy guilt that all mothers feel but working mothers do even more: A starting point is to understand your primary obligation, which is to worship Allah .
Our creed already informs us that our primary purpose is to worship Allah .
If I have to stay behind occasionally to work, I let them know why and when I will be home.
It’s important to be on their team and them on yours.
This helps me prepare myself mentally and physically by putting myself in a positive state of mind ready for my kids.
I always go home to my kids with a huge grin on my face – even if my day did not go well which I leave as something to discuss at the dinner table. We know that when the Prophet attended to anyone, he turned his full body to give the individual his full attention and listened actively and attentively.
And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running.” [Bukhari and Muslim] Having good positive thoughts about Allah is pertinent in seeing us through the regular troughs and throws of life. Getting my ducks in a row gives me clarity and focus in life.