Whether the combination of the two equals infatuation depends on you, but the simplest fact is that you are still technically strangers in the “Getting To Know Each Other” phase of dating.
When you are still in this 48-hour time period and you decide to text her compliments and affirmation of your interest every single day, ask her on dates every single weekend or offer to spend a ton of money on sh*t she doesn’t need, she doesn’t think, “Oh heavens, he is the Prince Charming I’ve always been searching for!
If anything, you’ve sent her backpedaling to placing you in the “option” category before she even knows you. We also know we probably won’t have to put in any more effort to keep you around because clearly you’re devoting all of your available energy into us and only us.
There is only one thing you need to do to stop coming off as the needy nice guy: leave her alone. Leave her alone, stop blowing up her phone, stop asking what she’s doing every second of the day. All you have to do is relax and spend the majority of your time focusing on creating a fulfilling life for yourself that will attract other people by default.If you have already been putting in strenuous amounts of effort to get her attention and receive radio silence in return, it’s not too late to back off. It’s a win-win situation because you will have you own self-created happiness to fall back on.I don’t care how great your conversation was, how in-depth you discussed each others' pasts and presents or how deeply you’ve stared into each others’ eyes.You know only two things -- what she wants you to know, and whether you would put your dick in her.I’ve dated nice guys, I’ve been friends with nice guys, and I’ve objectively observed nice guys from the sideline while they sent "good morning" texts and bought flowers. It has to be a blow to the ego when you really like someone, but every action you make in an attempt to have that feeling reciprocated pushes her away. I’m going to betray all women for a second (many of whom love to pretend women think nice guys are just as sexy and desirable as bad boys -- ROFL, we do not) and try to get our perspective to make sense. ”The next day, she’s mailed baby clothes to your apartment with your last name embroidered on tiny matching hats.
It’s usually unfair to group men of any kind into a stereotype, but we can make that rule permissible for the sweethearts who experience an identical outcome to their time-consuming (and expensive, holy hell) courting and wooing -- they never get the girl. Their text messages are left unread, their DMs are unopened, and the girl they just bought an expensive dinner for has seemingly passed onto the Great Beyond and ghosted them. It’s like “OK, I just did everything in my power to make her feel special and beautiful, and in return she sh*t on my whole life.”Resenting women in general would seem like the next logical step in thinking, with abundant evidence supporting the hypothesis that women love assh*les more than nice guys. After all, men and women have the same end goal -- we just prefer different deliveries. The next day, she texts you thanking you for such a great time, asks how your day is going, maybe sends over a thoughtful article on topic with the intelligent discussion you had over dessert. She texts you thanking you for such a great night, and when you don’t answer after five minutes, she asks if you’re cheating on her.
Nice guys are Girl #2; guys who ignore us are Girl #1.
That stomach churning feeling I mentioned is how we feel when a nice guy invests too much too soon.
I know this clingy psycho behavior is not what you’re doing specifically, but I have to exaggerate so that you get it.
It doesn’t matter what kind of attention you’re giving us -- if it’s too much, you seem like a serial killer.
Stop trying to woo her, stop trying to create a fairy tale. Plus, you won’t have to pretend to be busy and ignore a girl you like, which constitutes as playing games -- the most immature and counter-productive move you could make.