For those who have lost a spouse and are looking to date again, here are ten tips to help you successfully navigate the dating waters.
There's no specific time period one should wait before dating again.
Grieving and the process of moving on is something that's unique to each person.Some people take years, others weeks, and then there are those who choose never to date again.Whatever you do, don't let others tell you you're moving too fast or waiting too long.Make sure it's something you're really ready to try before taking that step. But five months was when I felt ready to at least test the dating waters.The first time I went to dinner with another woman, I felt like I was cheating on my late wife.
As we entered the restaurant, I was filled with feelings of guilt and betrayal.
If you have family and friends who are doing this, they need to be told privately, but in a loving manner, that this behavior is not acceptable.
If you wouldn't let family or friends treat your spouse that way, why would you tolerate that behavior toward someone else—especially when your date could become your future spouse? If you can't do that, then you have no business dating again.
It's okay to talk about the spouse when you're first dating someone.
Answer questions he or she may have about your marriage, but don't spend all your time talking about the dead or how happy you were. And who knows—she might make you incredibly happy for years to come.
I'm including this section of the book specifically for any widowers who might be reading it.