They may also pick up because they want to “heighten” the sexual experience.
So you’ve roped together a few days or weeks of sobriety and you are starting to feel human again.
Needless to say, this was not a match that God had intended for us. If you think about it, treatment and early AA’s are usually people who have been obsessive, manipulative, and controlling for a good portion of their lives.
We come into these rooms as broken people, but there is a beautiful possibility of a new life if we simply stay on the right track.
We have been given the gift of desperation, and we should never lose sight of why we are here.
Men who stop using drugs or alcohol but have not yet addressed their underlying psychological issues and emotional challenges often transfer their chemical addiction into the sexual or romantic arena.
Many such men search obsessively, usually online or using smartphone apps, for sexual partners, regardless of whether they are in an existing relationship.
Our old ways didn’t work for us, so what’s the harm in trying something new?
I guarantee, if you hold out on that relationship, and give yourself time to grow, the perfect companion will be shown to you in time.
I started worrying about the outfits I was wearing, I tried to constantly place myself in situations where I could be around them, and sometimes, I was consumed by fear and jealousy when I saw them flirting with someone else.
When we got out, they moved into a flop house and could have guests over at any time.
For the first week or two, I refrained and really stayed focused on the program.
Until one day, a poor broken soul caught my eye and it was all over.
If you or a loved one need help to overcome addiction, treatment is a proven effective option.