Jordan wants to buy a house, while I’m still feeling stoked to have my own apartment.
Jordan is so focused on his career while I still want to drop everything to travel the world.
Though I’d always thought of myself as mentally and emotionally mature I still saw 30 as “grown-up” and on the inside I felt too similar to a lost little girl.
As Jordan and I got to know each other better I realized how comfortable I was around him, he made me laugh, he never pressured of pushed me physically (in fact our first few dates I didn’t even realize were dates, oops) and I felt as if he understood me on a deeper level.
Just a week after my 23rd birthday we were invited skiing with our two friends who had just started dating, my friend broke her wrist, and Jordan and I spent a great deal of the day talking to one another.
Not long after we took a road trip to California together, said “I love you” for the first time on Valentine’s day and the rest…it’s not so distant history.
As time went on and our lives became more intertwined my opinion shifted once again.
How does a ten year age gap affect our relationship?Looking back there are a lot of reasons Jordan and I shouldn’t have met.We both didn’t want to go up to the mountain that day, we both almost flaked out, we both were sort of seeing other people (casually) and we are ten years apart.I get insecure if his ex girlfriend likes a bunch of his photos on instagram, but he doesn’t understand because some of his friends are dealing with divorces and child support.Our problems are relative and the reality is, a lot of the day to day struggles you encounter in your early twenties may be different in your early thirties.I have a feeling that as I become more settled in my career, my finances and adulthood the age difference will matter less (once again).