“Everyone has their own internal radar they use when deciding who to go out with,” says Manhattan-based relationship expert and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Rachel Sussman.
“If someone is too good-looking, too rich, too successful—it might make the average person uncomfortable.”" data-reactid="27"This reflects the findings from a study conducted by OKCupid, which found that while women judge the majority of men to be less than average in the looks department (harsh, ladies), they’re actually more likely to message those okay-looking guys than their studly counterparts.
“And I’m like, Jesse, no, he’s too handsome.”Say what? Lots of women cop to second-guessing the viability of a potential mate based on his stratospheric good looks.
“If someone is too good-looking, too rich, too successful—it might make the average person uncomfortable.”The phenomenon, says Sussman, is by no means limited to women. “I have a lot of really beautiful female clients and they say no one asks them out—a beautiful girl at a bar, maybe there’s ten guys that want to buy her a drink but no one does because they’re intimidated.”David Coggins, a writer in New York, heartily agrees: “Of course beautiful women are intimidating.It’s natural to feel that way and [you] probably should feel that way.” He also offers up this urban legend, eerily similar to Sussman’s hypothetical: “Every man has a story about a normal friend who went up to a model and asked her out and she said yes because nobody has the courage to do it.Sofia Vergara and Joe Manganiello at the 2015 MTV Movie Awards. She told the magazine: Modern Family’s Mitchell Pritchett], like, Please, please, please tell her I want her number,” she says in the interview.Photo: Getty Images Sofia Vergara–whose picture comes up when you look up “hot tamale” in the dictionary–told Vanity Fair she almost didn’t go out with her now-fiance Joe Manganiello. Maganiello was simply too good-looking for her." data-reactid="19"Last week, Sofia Vergara–whose picture comes up when you look up “hot tamale” in the dictionary–told Vanity Fair she almost didn’t go out with her now-fiance Joe Manganiello. “And I’m like, Jesse, no, he’s too handsome.”" data-reactid="21"“The day that I sent the press release [announcing the breakup with a different fiancé, Nick Loeb], Joe immediately contacted Jesse Tyler Ferguson [Modern Family’s Mitchell Pritchett], like, Please, please, please tell her I want her number,” she says in the interview.When a guy is too good looking, I end up seeing him like an rare piece of art on exhibit: great to look at, but not to touch.
I can appreciate a super attractive guy, but when it comes to picking a boyfriend, I’d rather have someone who isn’t completely perfect. Very beautiful people attract others like gold or diamonds do.
Imagine what would happen in your life if you knew exactly how to instantly attract women and make them feel an intense emotional connection with you and unstoppable desire for who you are as a guy.
Imagine talking to a group of women and effortlessly making them fight over which one will “win” you over…and then picking the woman you feel most attracted to. Getting women to compete over you makes the process of picking up 10x easier, but most guys simply don’t know how to do it.
Don’t get me wrong — confidence is sexy, but so is humility, especially on a really good-looking guy. Even though I have no problems with my appearance, trying to keep up with his good looks would be pointless.
I don’t need to outshine my boyfriend, but I need to feel like we’re at least somewhat equal in terms of our appearance.
Imagine having a beautiful girlfriend who goes out of her way to please you and worries about you losing interest in HER rather than the other way around.