With that said, he never judged me for my experiences.
He understood and listened with thoughtful curiosity.
Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work (look at Eva Longoria and her 4-years younger beau), but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.
“They don’t want to miss out on being part of their group, with whom they glean their identity.”Although you may be ready to walk down the aisle, it can be hard to get a younger man to put a ring on it.
“In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig.
Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but “younger men don’t have the ‘dad” gene in them until they get to be more established and mature,” says New York City-based matchmaker Janis Spindel.
So if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.
For example, I’d co-habitated with my ex for 5 years.
He had yet to experience this kind of relationship.The chemistry is there and you’re on the same page about many things, but often your careers will be at different stages, which could lead to resentment, says Amber Soletti, founder of On Speed and Singleandthe “Being older, you’re more successful and established, while he’s still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going,” she says.A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.I discovered what it’s like to have completely different cultural points of reference.