Tell me your life wouldn’t be easier if you could just have sex whenever you were feeling a lot of stress, and also that getting laid came with zero stress what so ever.For people who are in a relationship, you would think, “I can get laid whenever I want” but is that really true?
Do not accept less than the very basics of what you deserve by overcompensating and then feeling that you have to wait for some sort of payback.
Never treat you like you don’t matter in a messy effort to prove to someone else how much they matter.
If you’ve been overcompensating for your partners, you will know because you’re either in it and taking ownership of their feelings and behaviour, or you’re out of it and doing the same thing and feeling wounded by your “failure”.
You’ll be damn near exhausted from trying to figure out the magic words and deeds to keep this person happy so that you can feel happy.
We pull back, tread carefully, up the efforts, shrink a little (or a lot), force a smile, keep trying to show how much we love and care only to feel as if that’s making it worse, and sometimes put up with some pretty unpleasant if not downright abusive carry-on.
Part of us is almost thinking, Of course, the problem is that when they do leave or there are attempts to tackle the issues, because we covered their ‘share’ of the relationship and felt excessively responsible, we also feel excessively to blame.These experiences are there to teach us where we need to step up and show up for ourselves in order to change the nature of our journey. Whether it's figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.The biggest thing stressing out most people is sexual frustration, and they don’t even know it.Forgive you for where you let them off the hook from showing up and where you forgot your own responsibilities.Learn from this experience and what you’ve experienced will be transformed from loss to the gain that it is. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.Maybe it’s after the first conflict or after feeling wounded by criticism.